Your innerself, how are you looking well inside?

We put on our best attire, spruce up our hair, tend to our personal hygiene every single day in efforts of looking good to feel our best. Our shoes match our outfits, or our ties are handsomely stylish with our suits, we sometimes even throw on other accessories to add a unique look, sunglasses or shades, cufflinks and purses. We do our very best to appeal to the public eye because we want people to see us looking good and that's quite alright. How you dress, walk, talk and even what you don't say is how you look. Looking good isn't just in what you wear but what you do and say as well. Your personality isn't in your clothes, in other words, you wear your clothes, your clothes don't wear you.

How we look isn't determined by what we wear all the time. If you dress well and generally have a nasty attitude then it doesn't matter at all how much you paid for your Dolce and Gabbana sunglasses. Either you are going to look like a rich "A" hole with no manners or a Snobbish "B" with no regard to others.

Looking good on the inside counts just as much, if not more, than what others see on the outside. Too often, people seem to think if something costs a lot of money, like clothes, cars and homes, then these material items somehow should suffice for many other things, such as, close relationships and good personality.

You look darn good when you dress and act the part. Don't let your clothes wear you or your car overdrive you. I would even go so far as saying that looking good is not only a psychological thing but spiritual as well. So many people think they have it all because they have the nice job, money in the bank and nice things, but really all you have are material items that God has blessed you with. We sometimes take for granted the most important things that really matter and that's loving yourself and others.

Don't get me wrong, I love to dress as well as anybody, but what I put on isn't as nearly as important as how I feel about myself inside when I look in the mirror. I have to stair back at that face every single day and if I have wronged someone or have been a "B" to someone, I will view myself as internally scarred. When I look in the mirror to check my slip or my stockings, I'm checking my internal style as well.

If you can look at yourself in the mirror each morning and know that you have hurt someone else, humiliated someone or treated someone with disregard and feel nothing about that, then you should have taken the money paid for the $2000 suit and invested it in a heart transplant.

You only have it all when you look good all the way around. When you can be successful in your job, your looks and the way you treat others, then you are a perfect ten, but not because of your designer or where you live or what you drive, but only because of the accomplishment of loving yourself and others and loving yourself enough to treat others well.

Internal style or your personality is how others will perceive us. If you are a generally nice and easy to get along with person then you are among favorites. However, if you are rude, don't care about how you talk to or treat others, then even what you are wearing is ugly to others. Internal style is how we look on the inside to ourselves and others. Many will say, "I don't care what others think of me," trust me, the principle of the saying shouldn't be taken too lightly, because it matters a lot about what others think of you.

Looking good on the inside and outside can help you achieve a lot of things, for instance:

Jobs- dressing the part for the job will give a good first impression of only how you dress. The employer can say, " he or she is dressed nice," or maybe "he or she is a snazzy dresser." Then of course you wouldn't do an interview in 501 jeans but it isn't the clothes that get the job, it is the personality. Your smile, handshake and intelligence is what will win that employer over, not what you are wearing. The minute you seem a little cross to that employer or come off as rude, you are out of the door as quickly as you walked in with no return phone call.

Closer Relationships- just about everyone enjoys the company of a person who shines. Outstanding human beings love to associate with others who are like minded, that look good on the inside as well as on the outside. Friends of people who have an outgoing personality are often friends for a lifetime. Men love women who can have a classy personality, lady like manner and eye for fashion. No man would enjoy being with a woman who can only dress well but he's afraid to take her home to meet his parents. Women love men who can show pride in themselves, but aren't too egotistical. Women enjoy men who know how to treat them and want to please them, as opposed to a guy who is only after one thing. Doesn't matter if he's Fabio, if he's a jerk then he won't get any play.

Self Fulfillment- It makes you feel good to treat others well. True happiness can never be accomplished at the expense of others. Realize that we all need each other and should treat each other well. "Therefore all things whatsoever ye would that men should do to you, do ye even so to them." -Matthew 7:12. Also keeping this rule in mind, "only do to others what you are able to except in the mirror."

Treat people well

Love yourself and others

Beauty is skin deep

Never let material things suffice for your personality

Look good from the inside out, not from the outside in.

Live well and love others is a recipe for good living and looking good.